Starting Off the New (School) Year!

Even though January marks the beginning of the calendar year, September marks the beginning of the real New Year for many of us. Whether it’s our first time sending a child off to school or twentieth time, there is a sensation of excitement with each beginning. A new lunch bag or backpack is a wonderful symbol of the season; fresh and ready to be filled up. This is a time ripe with hope and promise, and let’s be honest… anxiety and stress.

We want so much for our children to be successful that we may inadvertently be creating a stressful situation for ourselves and our children. Consider a few simple yet promised de-stressors as we launch the new year:

Set Routines

• Set the alarm clock early enough to avoid a dramatic start to the day i.e. yelling, threatening and rushing. Get yourself up first so that you can transition into the day before calling into action the rest of your household.


• Set boundaries and expectations for homework, TV and tech time. Monitor and establish positive and negative consequences.


• Check your child’s backpack daily; you might be surprised what you find.


• Establish and maintain one place in your home where the backpack is stored. Same for shoes, coats, pencils, paper, etc. Knowing where to find something is in itself a victory!


• Before going to bed, be fully ready for the morning departure. Have everything in one, consistent location – including both shoes. If your child takes medication in the morning, put it out at night; right next to their breakfast dish.


• Create departure rituals – blowing kisses, high fives or positive messages. Your child will remember this long after you do.

Set an Example

• Turn off the T.V. during homework time. Model the joy of reading a good book or the daily newspaper.


• Have dinner together. Talk about the successes and challenges of the day; yours and theirs. This not only grounds children, it creates memorable experiences and family closeness.


• Check your child’s homework and help them plan for long term assignments. Help them develop a plan and work that plan.

Set High and Achievable Expectations

• This is a brand new year. It’s going to be a good year! Communicate your hopes for the school year. Establish high expectations and provide the support necessary to achieve these expectations. Your child will work harder in a difficult class if you are cheering them on and providing the support that they need to master either a subject or a challenging relationship.


• Demonstrate resilience when disappointments or set-backs occur. Celebrate earned accomplishments.


• Communicate with your child’s teacher to share your expectations and your commitment to helping your child be successful. Remember that you are partners; nurture the relationship.

Set yourself up to enjoy the journey! Happy New Year!

Posted by Chris Ader-Soto, Senior Vice President, Family and Youth Asset Development, Y of Central Maryland